Your friends, family members and relatives will pester you with endless questions. That too as soon as you put the ring on your fiance's finger, announce the engagement on Facebook or the news of your ‘roka’ becomes official. It doesn’t matter that you’re still trying to accept the new change in your life and gearing up for the wedding. You’ll anyway be bombarded with questions because others cannot control their excitement over your engagement.
Let’s look at the sticky questions people ask after you’re engaged- :P
When’s the Big Day?
First reaction: Man, I got only engaged yesterday. Let me at least begin my courtship.
If you have a wedding date, then give it. Otherwise, just say that "Our families are discussing it. Let’s see what date is finalized."
If your wedding day is like more than a year away, then be prepared to answer, “Your family agreed for such a long courtship?” or “Why wait for so long?”
What did you like in him?
Expect this question if yours is an arranged marriage. Over enthusiastic people also ask about the conversation that you had with the guy, how the first meeting was and his qualities that impressed you the most. The most annoying question however comes from our snoopy aunties who ask unabashedly, “Does he drink or smoke?” and “Ladka karta kya hai?”
Will you work after marriage?
Your feminist contemporaries and conservative aunties will surely ask this question. If you say no, the instant question would be, “what’s the use of studying so much?” or “how can you just be at home all day?”
You almost end up thinking this aloud: “Someone please tell all these people that marriage comes with loads of responsibilities. And there’s nothing wrong with me if I just want to enjoy being married for a while and cook for my husband. I can always work when I want to.”
If you say yes that you’ll work, people will ask, “oh your in-laws agreed? Where will you work? How will you manage work and home together?”
Joint family or Nuclear family?
This is another question on the checklist, mostly of snoopy aunts again. Some married friends may also ask you this question, especially those who had some unhealthy experience staying in a joint family or with in-laws.
If you say joint family, then be prepared for a whole range of questions on the kind of in-laws you have, number of brothers and sisters in law, pets and what not. If you say ‘single family’, then all you’ll get is, “Wow, Lucky You!”
Where are you going for Honeymoon?
“Why, you want to accompany me?” But, you can’t say this. Instead you’ve to blush a little and then speculate on a few options like “Singapore, Malaysia, Europe”. Just brush up your Geography and you’re sorted.
If you’re a chatty bride who loves to fill in people with the details of her engagement, upcoming wedding and in-laws and everything, then you are going to love all the attention. It’d be others who’d be secretly smirking and saying, ‘don’t you think and talk about anything else?’
Sticky questions for grooms
Interestingly, not many people ask too many questions to the groom. His aunts and uncles just tease him now and then. The questions that come from the groom’s friends are:
- "Bhai shaadi mei bulayega na?”
- “Bhai drinks toh hogi na reception pe?”
- “Bhai Bhabhi ki koi choti behen hai?”
- “Koi Aakhri Ichcha hai toh bata de?”
